The Heart of Connection: Gratitude for My Inner Circle

These past few weeks, I have been deeply reflecting on a profound quote by Yung Pueblo: “If you are wondering who your people are, they are the ones who make your heart feel seen and your nervous system feel calm. Yes, it’s that simple.” This quote resonates with me on multiple levels, as it encapsulates the essence of the relationships that truly matter in my life. The individuals I have chosen to keep in my inner circle are, without a doubt, those who possess the remarkable ability to make my heart feel acknowledged and my nervous system feel at ease.

Over the course of the last few years, I have embarked on a journey of self-discovery and emotional awareness, learning to lean in and listen to the subtle cues that my body provides regarding the people I choose to surround myself with. The outcome of this mindful approach has been a natural and intentional shrinking of my inner circle, leading me to a more authentic and fulfilling connection with a select few.

While my inner circle may be small in number, the individuals within it are those whose mere presence brings a sense of calm and safety. They are the ones who allow me to grapple with difficult decisions, complex questions, and overwhelming emotions without passing judgment or imposing their own beliefs about how I should feel or what I should do. These are the friends who understand that sometimes I need to pull back and retreat into solitude, and they are never offended by my need for space. Instead, they respect my boundaries and offer support from a distance, ready to engage when I am prepared to rejoin the world.

They are the warriors who fight alongside me and advocate for me, speaking my name in rooms filled with opportunities and possibilities. In moments of vulnerability, when I pick up the phone, overwhelmed by tears and emotions, they are the ones who listen intently, providing a comforting silence that conveys their understanding and presence. Their ability to simply be there for me in those moments is a testament to the depth of our connection.

Our coffee and meal dates feel timeless, as if no time has passed since we last sat together, enveloped in easy conversation and laughter. They are the dreamers, the ones who dare to envision a world filled with hope and possibility. They wrestle with their own questions, emotions, and decisions, and they are never afraid to ask the tough questions that encourage growth and reflection.

These friends know the true meaning of holding space; they remind me that it is perfectly acceptable to sit in the grey areas of life, where clarity is not always present, and that sometimes, this uncertainty is not only okay but necessary for personal growth. They encourage me to take moments for myself, to silence the cacophony of external voices, and to simply breathe, reconnecting with my inner self.

When I find myself spiraling into the depths of self-doubt and insecurity, they are the ones who give me that much-needed swift kick in the ass, pushing me to rise above my fears and insecurities. They speak the hard truths that I sometimes need to hear, and their hugs feel like medicine for my soul, providing warmth and comfort that can heal even the deepest wounds. They cheer for me just as passionately as I cheer for them, celebrating each other’s victories with genuine enthusiasm. The laughter we share is deep and infectious, filling the air with joy and lightness.

These individuals are fierce in their support, tender in their compassion, passionate in their pursuits, and vulnerable in their authenticity. They embody pure magic and represent everything good in this world. If I am indeed the sum of the five people I spend my time with, then I can confidently say that I am in the most extraordinary company.

So, to the few in my inner circle, you know who you are, and I want to take this moment to express my heartfelt gratitude. Thank you for being the kind of people who make my heart feel seen and my nervous system feel calm!

As I reflect on the journey of the last few years, I am filled with a profound sense of humility and gratitude for each of you. You have been unafraid to sit with me in my darkest moments, never rushing me through the pain to reach the happy endings. Instead, you have allowed me the space to feel my way through the shadows, understanding that this was the only path to healing and growth.

Your love has remained steadfast, even during my absences, as you recognized that my need for space was not a reflection of your worth or value as individuals and friends. You held space for me when I needed it most, lifting me up during times when I felt as though I could not take another step forward. And in turn, I have always strived to provide the same unwavering support for you. My gratitude and love for each of you knows no bounds, and I cherish the unique bond we share, which has been cultivated through mutual respect, understanding, and an unwavering commitment to one another’s well-being.

As I close this reflection, I am reminded of the immeasurable value of having people who truly see and support us. These relationships are gifts that deserve to be nurtured and celebrated.

Now, I turn the question to you: Who in your life makes your heart feel seen and your nervous system feel calm? How do you show gratitude for those connections? I would love to hear your thoughts and stories in the comments below.